Helllooo Sunshiners!
It’s been a minute since I’ve posted some real talk on here and I have something very important laying on my heart today. There is an aspect of my personality that translates onto how I live day to day. I like my alone time and I need my space but I also thrive on being busy. Something that I struggle with every now and again is accepting the fact that I can’t do it all. That is why I’m talking about…
I feel an enormous amount of pressure at times to be everything for everyone. It’s an unrealistic idea that my “people-pleasing” nature creates in my head. When someone texts me to hang out or if someone asks me to do something, most of the time, if I’m free obviously, without hesitation- I’ll say yes. Don’t get me wrong, I like being around my tribe of people and making memories and building strong relationships. However, it just takes that one day of being overly exerted when someone texts me asking when I can hang out and I b r e a k.
Over the years, as friends drift apart, ghost you completely or you just lose touch, I begin to understand why. Regardless of each situation, I notice that those who remain in your life are the ones that just get you. Having people in your circle that support you and who understand your quirky ways is something that can’t be beat. So, if this means removing the toxic people that flood your life, then so be it. You’re better off alone while you build your circle. It sounds harsh when you say it like that but when you apply this to the context of your own life, it becomes much more clear. You shouldn’t dread the incoming texts/calls you get asking to hang, you shouldn’t feel like you’re being pulled in a million different directions. While this may happen on its own because #life, you shouldn’t have to compromise your own sanity for those around you because you feel obligated to do so.
With all of that said, I challenge you to picture the people in your life and see if any of these issues apply to you. Life is too short to keep people around that don’t push you forward and as I grow through my early twenties, this is something that’s becoming very obvious to me.
Stay spontaneous, stay original + cultivate positivity.
XOXO,
Don’t settle.
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