Naturally, two of the strongest things in life are love + fear. I used to let fear be stronger and I used to overlap the two heavily. As I’m going through life, it’s starting to click that some people hold onto fear more.
Fear of anything, not just love. Fear that tomorrow won’t come. Fear that ambitions won’t be met. Fear. I just have one question:
Why is it so much easier to fear than to love?
I have learned love in several different ways. Mostly through family + friends and J of course. How love can heal the deepest of wounds, which is oversaid but so so true. Love to me is someone telling me something because it reminded them of me. Love is still getting butterflies when I see J in a crowd of people and I can’t help but get a huge cheesy smile. Love can be a lot of things; but it can also be damaging.
I’ve seen love blind some people into letting their heart be held by wrongful hands. I’ve done it too, myself. Knowing your self worth and knowing how much you have to offer the world is hard to see when you’re blinded by someone else caging your heart. It’s hard to see past that person. Meaning, ‘who comes after? There’s no one else, this is as good as it’s going to get so I might as well stick around.’
You’re doing injustice to your own heart. We don’t have much time here, in fact it will fly by. Let yourself live. Let yourself flourish before investing yourself in someone else. Finding a person who sets your soul on fire is arguably the most amazing part of life. There’s so many beautiful aspects to the human connection, especially when it’s reciprocated well and it’s more than just passion.
The little things matter too.
Find someone who not only sets your soul on fire, but someone who knows how you HAVE to sleep with the fan on. Someone who knows you like your eggs well done. Find someone who makes you get a huge cheesy grin but also someone who gets one, too.
It’s not perfect, it never will be. Loving someone is complicated. Don’t search for perfection, search for acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that this is who you are and if they want to love you, it’s up to them. Acceptance of all the hardships you’ll face together. Yes there is fear and no it doesn’t happen over night but I promise once you invest in yourself- your soul is next.
I really wanted to write this post due to the fact that I hear so often of people getting treated poorly looking for love. But the worst part is a lot of them have no idea. They’re completely blinded by wanting to be accepted by the wrong person that they ignore the hurt being inflicted upon them. Like I said, it’s not perfect and it never will be. BUT, it doesn’t have to tear you up inside.
I am no love expert but I like to think I have a pretty firm grasp on the topic. Let me know what you think love should look like + what it means to you.
XOXO,
Wanna be love guru.
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