Social Hierarchy

Hello Sunshine Chasers!🌞

So, short life update first (from my last post): I have officially heard back from my appeal at Cal Poly and they denied my appeal even though they had made a mistake on their end. I’ve been hearing, “sue them,” “go down there and raise hell.” But, I am a HUGE believer that everything happens for a reason, so this has caused me to look at the situation in a different light. Now having an entire semester off, I plan to find an internship of some kind and save as much money as I can- in other words I plan to stay as busy as possible to distract myself. I’m going to reapply for spring semester and I’m fully aware that, “there is no time line,” and “you’re still so young.” But, obviously I’m upset and I’m just trying to pick up and move on to the next chapter. SO thank you for all the stories I’ve heard from all of you about colleges and how things have a funny way of working out.

Okay, enough about that. I’ve been constantly seeing the same topic resurfacing time and time again and I can’t take it anymore.

I have previously done a post showing both sides to the everlasting social media debate. I am so tired of people constantly saying how social media is so negative and so awful while they’re posting about this…. on social media? I am fully aware that cyber bullies, negative comments and hateful posts circulate throughout the apps we all use which is unsettling and heartbreaking, however, that’s not what I’m discussing.

I constantly hear people saying that they’re tired of seeing these beautiful girls on Instagram and Twitter because it causes them to look at themselves in a negative way. Without social media, the same thing has happened since the beginning of time. If you see a beautiful model walking down the street and you compare yourself to her thinking, “dang, I wish I looked like that,” you are comparing yourself to a different set of genes, a different person’s life and experiences that shaped who they are and most likely how they look. To compare yourself to someone who gets PAID to look the way they do is baffling to me.

So, I think the larger issue is self love. I don’t know why theres a direct negative correlation with this issue of lack of self love and social media. I think the worst part is when people bring up, “there’s only the good parts of someone’s life on social media, you have no idea what kind of problems they were having that day.” Like?! No shit! You’re probably not close enough in the first place to be hearing about that so why would someone post a picture of the horrible time they’re having? And, if you go looking for problems in someone else’s life, there’s a large chance that’s a reflection on your own. 

The post I had made before, I was trying to be very careful not to state my opinion too much because I wanted to give a very Switzerland approach. From then until now, I’ve had just about enough of people being so annoying about this. Technology is inevitable and if you’re so concerned with stalking models on Instagram and trying to find the negative in people’s life, then I think you need to take a long hard look in the mirror. And, if you’re really so sick of seeing people happy on the internet, go outside. There’s an entire world you can explore without sitting on your couch, complaining about social media users.

Earlier I mentioned an issue of lack of self love. I think it will always be an issue whether you’re 13 or 76. Having self love is a process and its something that you have to have over and over again. For those who have a hard time with that, comparing yourself to others is the number one way to diminish any chance of confidence you once had. EVERYONE is beautiful in their own way and just because someone else’s beauty translates different than yours, doesn’t make it better. 

Rant over. Thanks for reading and I’ll see you all on social media.

XOXO,

Love Yo Self.