I never thought I would be the type of girl to be apart of a long-lasting, healthy relationship. My affiliation with love for most of my life was instilled by family and friends, mostly. After I’ve felt what it means to actually work at something and someone that genuinely makes life better- I’ll never go back.
I guess what I mean by never going back is a reflection on what being in love has taught me. I’m far from a love expert by any means and when I say my relationship is healthy, I don’t mean that it is perfect. Love has taught me that putting your pride aside to deal with issues makes everything a little easier to get through. I am stubborn to the core and rarely admit that I’m wrong so being in a relationship where we both constantly go back and forth was a true testament to how far I could compromise myself. Being mature has a lot to do with it but most of all its about not giving up.
I’m writing this for my 17 year old self that would wish for love on every birthday. That girl didn’t even know what she was wishing for and I’m happy I had to date a few frogs to before I found a prince. Those frogs were not only stepping stones, but huge life lessons. Without them, I would’t realize that someone who makes you seem like an obligation is no one you need to have around. Someone should make time for you and go out of their way to tell you how much you mean to them. That 17 year old girl had no idea what it takes to make a relationship thrive and while I sit here today, writing this post- I know I don’t have all the answers but I’ve never been happier so I think I might be on to something. While I feel I have a good grasp on this relationship, I also found my person which makes not giving up a little easier to do.
This is a reminder for anyone doubting not only a romantic relationship but any aspect of your circle of people. Someone who wants to be in your life will make it known. You can’t be the only one reaching out and holding the two of you afloat, it takes two. Cutting people out of our life that don’t benefit it in anyway isn’t heartless, it’s beyond mature. Being in love has taught me that not only do I want to feel loved, I want to make it known that he is loved unconditionally, too. Everybody loves differently and just because your significant other doesn’t love the way you do, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
So today, think about someone else. Do something sweet to make someone smile and also remind yourself that you deserve healthy love no matter what form it comes in.
XOXO,
please don’t text your shitty ex, that’s not what I meant.
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